Fortunately there is a Match.com for job seekers.

I’ve always maintained that for most of us, our relationship with our job is similar to a romantic relationship.


First there’s the resume. It’s like your best going out with your friends outfit – you highlight your best features to help you stand out from the crowd. Then there’s the interview. You wear your best first date for a job outfit, you’re on your best behavior , you and the interviewer are trying each other on to see if there’s potential.

And then you get the job. The first three months are so new and everything is exciting. Then, if all continues to go well, you fall into comfortable routine and on your anniversary you usually receive a present (a raise, an evaluation, more vacation)—see how this works?

I've never been great about looking for a job while I have one. It always feels like cheating to me. You have to lie to someone about where you are going and you feel guilty when you get back. It’s too much and really when you are ready to leave your current job for the next you have to break up – It’s not you it’s me. It’s me having found something better with more long term potential; something that better reflects who I want to be in the future.

What if they dump you though?

Here we were going along and then they dump you. And “it’s not you it’s them” –their financial status, their restructuring whatever it is hardly makes you feel any better. You're suddenly adrift.

I’m finally starting to look for another job and I actually was sitting here thinking “but I liked that job. I thought we had a future”…and the truth is, over the past week I’ve started to see where the cracks were forming for quite some time. Their subtle comments about maybe we don’t have a long term future with our current direction. My own straying eyes and seeing what else is out there. My illicit meeting with that other job recruiter. I was so blind.

I’m back out on the market. Getting my resume pressed and ready, getting into interviewing shape. Because the reality is, like it or not, when you’ve been dumped, the best thing to do financially and personally is just get back out there.